Seriously parents out there, it does make sense why people say that.
The children do grow up so quick. I’m tearing up as I write this. It’s such a precious and beautiful experience to see a child look into your eyes, smile so big, and look for assurance, approval, comfort, safety, and love. I feel myself so full of love and purpose. Every dang day.
One night after everyone is asleep, I’m reflecting on the last year. A whirlwind of changes. Life after a baby is so different. I no longer care if Friday night is now relaxed movie night after baby is asleep. Much different from the life out around town, late nights, and sleeping in.
Those little fingers and toes. That contagious baby laugh. The baby words that just melt you. I wouldn’t change it.
I’m trying not to but shoot,
It was between the cozy newborn cuddles and the first walk around the neighborhood and the first times trying a food. The first words. The first everythings. The hard long nights. And the first sleeping-through-the-night MAGIC that also happened. The first time leaving the baby with a family member or babysitter for a date night but just wanting to leave early to see baby again. We tried not to blink but we couldn’t help it.
And it’s okay, mama. We all blinked.
They did too.
And they want to play outside and go on adventures and explore the world. Make a mess and have a blast.
Together with us.
While the baby is small we will be hugging them tight or if they are big, we will still be hugging them tight everyday. Mindful of each day, the rollercoaster that it can be. We recognize being along for the ride with our eyes open is the best way.
So, there might be an occasional blink in this don’t blink world.
CAN YOU BELIEVE SHE WAS FEEDING HER DAUGHTER THAT? CAN YOU BELIEVE SHE TOOK HER BABY OUT SHOPPING IN PAJAMAS? CAN YOU BELIEVE THEY LET HIM WATCH THE PHONE? CAN YOU CAN YOU CAN YOU CAN YOU…
Everyone parents differently.
Some are no electronics and some are electronics and TV from early on. Some children have been only in cloth diapers and some wear whatever diapers are available. Breast or bottlefed. To self soothe or rocked to sleep. The lists of differences go on and on.
You might ask, HEY SO WHAT’S THE BIG DEAL?
Here’s the beautiful thing about this all …
These kids will be friends and will still play on the playground together and still do art in class together and still be children together. They might not know their parents had such different ways to raise them. Each of them will still have strengths and weakness. Each of them will still have good and bad days, just like we all have. So did it matter if baby boy never nursed because his mom chose not to and only slept after being rocked to sleep? NO. Or that his friend was nursed 2-3 years? NO. Both mamas love their baby and made choices for a reason.
I AM JUST SICK OF PEOPLE BEING NASTY TO ONE ANOTHER. I CAN’T HANDLE IT. LET’S CHANGE THE CULTURE AND COME TOGETHER.
I feel like the scene from Mean Girls right about now. When Tina Fey’s character says “Raise your hand if you have ever been personally victimized by Regina George”. Everyone raises their hand. I feel like as mothers we can of course share our opinions and experience with others but let’s be open and nice about it, not victimize mothers who are trying to find their way. BECAUSE for some things THERE IS NO RIGHT ANSWER and DIFFERENT THINGS WORK FOR DIFFERENT MAMAS and BABIES.
Motherhood is HARD enough, lets stick together and empower each other, not tear each other down.
Comment on this post and let me know what you think. How do you combat negativity from other moms or how to do empower mamas?
This might sounds silly, but I was STRESSED out about packing my breastpump bag prior to going back to work. Weeks before returning to work, I practiced a few times to ease my fear of forgetting anything. The first weeks were a little choppy just figuring out what to bring and how to store it, but I have been pumping at work now for 6 months and have MASTERED the organization of it and how use less bottles(aka less to wash). Let me help you! We will talk about the components of what to have in the pumping bag (purse or book bag), how to organize the bag, and a typical flow of the work pumping sessions to get an idea of planning it.
Alright, no matter what type of pump this organization can help anyone really. I have used both a spectra and medela, both were great. I chose to buy the Spectra S1 and LOVE that it is rechargeable.
What you’ll need:
1. The Two Plastic Containers
It helps to have two plastic containers so you can put the flanges in between pumping sessions in the fridge and then the bottles that you had poured milk from in a separate container so you can wash at home later. It is a personal choice but I chose to refrigerate my pumping flanges during the 12 hr shift and reuse them. If you have glass containers that serve the same purpose, go for it!
2. A Pump Bag or Bookbag
No matter what type of bag you use, just make sure it has enough room for the supplies needed. Some pumps come with their own bag, so you might be covered in the bag department in that case.
3. The Pump and Charger/ Batteries
Of course no pumping bag is complete without the most important component, the pump! I have used both the spectra and medela and really liked them both. I know there are lots of of other brands that people do well with too! I chose to get the Spectra S1 which is rechargeable with a cord outlet, however remember to always bring the cord. I one time forgot my cord and had to run home over lunch to get it, made the day much more stressful than in needed to be. : )
4. The flanges/ bottles/filters
Alright, so everyone of course has their favorite bottles. Ours are the Dr Brown Bottles. They make handy little attachments to help pump directly into the bottles that I got from Amazon. So when I use the Spectra, I pump with a spectra bottle on one side and then one side attached to the Dr Brown bottles. After I am done, I combine the milk from the spectra side to the milk in the Dr Brown bottles, put in the blue Dr Brown air filter and top and store in the lunch bag to refrigerate, along with the flanges in the plastic container in the bag. The other spectra container that was just used emptied I put in the second plastic container in my pump bag to wash later.
*Note —> To reuse flanges, they need to be refrigerated between uses
5. The Lunchbox
I bring a lunchbox to work that makes my trips to the break room to store my milk in the fridge a little more coy, even though I am a proud working mom that will gladly talk about breastfeeding and pumping and all with coworkers and strangers alike. ha : ). Just make sure it is large enough for one of those tupperware containers to hold the flanges and how many bottles you plan to pump. The picture above is an example after i’ve pumped twice at work.
6. Pumping Bra/ Cover (Optional)
So I love my handsfree pumping bra so I can be reading a book, finishing up work, journaling, looking at my calendar, snacking or really doing anything versus holding those dang phalanges while pumping. This of course is optional but some of the best money well spent. Also I pump with a cover on, I think depending on the scenario where you pump, it might not be necessary especially if you can lock the door. I pump in a medical office outpatient clinic in a spare exam room. Even with the do not disturb sign, I have had one surprise visitor but I was covered so it was nothing!
7. Bag in help store clean bottles/filters between uses (Optional)
I have so many little makeup/traveling bags from over the years and I found that using one in my pump bag really helped keep thing organized. I stored my pump extra things (extra bottles and the filters) in this bag to make it easy and convient to switch parts out quickly and efficiently. You can see that between the spectra bottle, blue filter, dr brown bottle and then the two assembled flanges, I come home with two bottles ready for baby.
But wait, how do I pack the bag?
Let me show you how I pack it quickly and easily every time
First layer is the two plastic containers and bag with extra bottles.
2. Next layer is the pump and the flanges with attached bottles, ready to go
3. Last layer is the pumping bra and cover (again optional)
Typical flow of pumping during workday
So here is a typical set up — > for the first pump of the day, the flanges are already ready to go. I have them at the top part of the bag for a quick start. Just have to put on the pump bra, flange up and BOOM. After I’m done, I combine the milk to one bottle, I put on the lid to the bottle and place in lunchbox, rinse phalanges and place in container in lunchbox, then take to fridge.
For the second pump of the day, I get the flanges in the lunch bag from the fridge, and I add a new bottom to them (one spectra bottle, one Dr Brown bottle), place the circle filters back on and pump. After I’m done, i put the lid to the second bottle, place in lunchbox on and place the flanges back in the container for the fridge.
When I used to pump 3 times during the work day I would repeat the second pump steps (along with of course bringing extra bottles)
YOU GOT THIS
Having the opportunity to breastfeed a baby is great bonding and provides the baby and the mom with wonderful health benefits. Give yourself a little room to get in the groove but with determination, it can just just become second nature and not a headache at all.
RANDOM FACT—-> Lastly, I just usually pack the night before I have to work if I have time and just make sure I have all the essentials. It makes the mornings more smooth to just grab it and go, knowing that all the components I would have already double checked.
Happy breastfeeding and happy pumping!
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