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Transitions: How to Grow and How to Challenge Oneself

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Just wanted to share my thoughts on this sunny, beautiful Tuesday. We’re in a transition time. Baby is already over a year old and is off of bottles, which has made life easier. #DrBrownBottleswith1000pieces.  It’s just been a whirlwind of a year. We’ve been married for over two years, baby is mobile, talking, changing, and exploring more each day and our life is chaotic but so rewarding and fulfilling. 

Have kids they said, it’ll be fun. 

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Haha, well it is fun. They were right.  It is also exhausting and tests your limits. And your limits with your spouse. BUT.

That look in your child’s eye when they are happy or the sound of their laugh.

Seeing a grandparent or spouse playing with your child and seeing them smiling ear to ear, how that makes you happy and smile the same way.

That’s the fuel that keeps me going everyday, even on those days that every liquid around is somehow spilling and the house is a mess.

That smile is what dreams are made of.

So for now how do we adjust with transitions in the meantime?

  1. Keep making your family a priority
    • Take a step back and look at the big picture. These changes as a family helps up persevere together. Whether it is returning to work after maternity leave or adjusting to a new job, new house, new city. A new developmental stage for a child. A new sibling. How do we take this head-on? Game plan for hard days?
  2. Make more quality time a priority.
    • Trying to limit distractions when with friends or with children or with family. Eye contact, hugs, high fives, family games, floor time with toys, swimming, museums, zoo, cards, walks. I’m challenging myself with this all the time, it is so difficult to NOT be distracted. What I have been doing is finding the balance- I try to check social media a few times a day briefly, then putting the phone away to focus on spending more time in the NOW with those around me.
  3. Reflect
    • Take time to journal or just doodle while reflecting on how far you have come. Write down all you HAVE accomplished and be proud of that! Nothing amazing was built in one day, let yourself be vulnerable.
  4. Consider relationships a priority
    • Do you brush your teeth at least everyday? Hopefully right? 🙂
    • I sometimes have  a hard time remembering that relationships need upkeep like daily checking in about the weeks events, short term goals, and so on, but it is just as important as the other things we do daily like brushing those pearls.
  5. Nurture friendships
    • Near and far, remind those friends you think of that you are still thankful for the friendship. Call a friend that you haven’t spoken to in a while. Set a date, even if someone might have to cancel because of an unforeseen circumstance.
  6. Try to give yourself some dang grace as your grow and are challenged
    • It’s okay to feel like this is a hard time. Call a friend, call a sibling or relative, call your closet work pal. There is always someone that has likely gone through something similar. Exercise. Find some out that lets you find freeing.
  7. Let all that drama and negativity out the BACK door. No one has time for that
    • Seriously.  YOU can do this. Transitions are temporary. ❤

I’m definitely going through a transition right now just STILL adjusting to this very busy life of a working mom. I’ve been using all these things to remind myself to enjoy these moments and the chaos. It is made me adjust so much easier. Change makes us stronger and keeps us on our toes. It can be hard but thankfully we never have to do anything alone.

Keep on being awesome, all you lovely people out there

We are all in this crazy, beautiful life together

❤ Hope

Let me know what you think. What helps you when you’re going through a transition either personally or with a family?

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Momshaming NEEDS to stop

Momshaming NEEDS to stop

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CAN YOU BELIEVE SHE WAS FEEDING HER DAUGHTER THAT? CAN YOU BELIEVE SHE TOOK HER BABY OUT SHOPPING IN PAJAMAS? CAN YOU BELIEVE THEY LET HIM WATCH THE PHONE? CAN YOU CAN YOU CAN YOU CAN YOU…

Everyone parents differently.

Some are no electronics and some are electronics and TV from early on. Some children have been only in cloth diapers and some wear whatever diapers are available. Breast or bottlefed. To self soothe or rocked to sleep. The lists of differences go on and on.

You might ask, HEY SO WHAT’S THE BIG DEAL?

Here’s the beautiful thing about this all …

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These kids will be friends and will still play on the playground together and still do art in class together and still be children together. They might not know their parents had such different ways to raise them. Each of them will still have strengths and weakness. Each of them will still have good and bad days, just like we all have. So did it matter if baby boy never nursed because his mom chose not to and only slept after being rocked to sleep? NO. Or that his friend was nursed 2-3 years? NO. Both mamas love their baby and made choices for a reason.

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I AM JUST SICK OF PEOPLE BEING NASTY TO ONE ANOTHER. I CAN’T HANDLE IT. LET’S CHANGE THE CULTURE AND COME TOGETHER.

 

I feel like the scene from Mean Girls right about now. When Tina Fey’s character says “Raise your hand if you have ever been personally victimized by Regina George”. Everyone raises their hand. I feel like as mothers we can of course share our opinions and experience with others but let’s be open and nice about it, not victimize mothers who are trying to find their way. BECAUSE for some things THERE IS NO RIGHT ANSWER and DIFFERENT THINGS WORK FOR DIFFERENT MAMAS and BABIES.

Motherhood is HARD enough, lets stick together and empower each other, not tear each other down.

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❤ Hope

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