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A Letter To My Husband

I love this life with you.

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I love celebrating small and big victories with you. I enjoy our time together as a family at home, exploring, traveling, and making memories with you.

Thanks for making me comforted and supported when I am emotional and feeling overwhelmed.

Thanks for making me laugh even when I want to cry.

Thank you for being kind to me even when I am having a rough day and I often forget to tell you how much it helps to have your support.

You work hard at your job and then still have energy to take on house projects.

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Thank you for being so sweet with our child. I never knew how someone that I respect so much and has always been strong and stoic can also be so gentle and touching.

You are an amazing man. You are a great friend to your friends and an incredible husband.

Thanks for giving me space when I need it.

Thanks for being you.

THERE ARE DAYS I want to yell and cry. Or cry then yell. Life can have patches that can get you down. Thank you for helping me through those days and I’ll always be there for you when you have those same days.

AND when we have the INEVITABLE AND HARD discussions of our approach and opinions on finances, family goals, jobs, house and other decisions, thank YOU for being open to discuss what we desire. We argue sometimes. It can be difficult.

BUT HERE’S THE THING,

I love you.

We got this. I’d rather not have these discussions with anyone else but you. You are my person and I’m in it to win it with you, husband.

❤ Wifey

 

 

Why Journaling Is My Medicine

JOURNALING? AS an ADULT?

I know, I know. Some people do not think journaling is a legitimate way to spend time. I am not sure why people think it is a silly pastime. It honestly has changed by life. You might have never have written in a journal before or maybe you share the same thoughts as me and enjoy writing things down. All I ask is to not knock it before you try it 🙂 ❤

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Reasons why you should try journaling:

  1. It helps you reflect on how far you have come and how proud you should be about overcoming obstacles.

  2. From reading previous entries, you are reminded of things you have learned.

  3. It puts ALL things in perspective.

  4. It is relaxing to GET emotions out.

  5. Journalling helps you identify things you would like to WORK on and brainstorm solutions.

  6. It also allows you to DREAM big, no boundaries.

  7. It reminds you of what matters in life and what your priorities are. Is it family? Friends? Work? Traveling? Cooking? Hobbies? A combination? Are you happy with how you spend your time or do you want to change how the weeks and month are spent?

  8. It helps you GROW to become the person you want to be.

What do you think? What to pick up a journal and try to make it a weekly or daily habit? Or do you already practice journalling and enjoy it? Let me know, would love to hear from you!

Peace and love

❤ Hope

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Being You: 4 Ways To BRING IT ON

Happy beautiful day internet world.

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Been thinking about the direction I want my life to go to and my past. Ive been feeling curious if anyone has felt the same.

  1. I am DIFFERENT from where I was 5 years ago.  I think before I talk and am more respectful to those around me.
  2. Friendships CHANGE. It is inevitable. I have been struggling with not beating myself up for not making old friendships a constant priority. TRUE friends can pick up where they left off and we will reconnect when we can.
  3. I am RESILIENT. A bad day at work or a rough day with the baby does not get to me anymore. I have a support system of friends, family, and coping mechanisms to help take a step back.
  4. I feel GRATEFUL for every single day. Not everyday is promised and I have been doing the best I can to cherish the day to day, even if there is not AMAZING things happening every day.

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SO, I challenge you to consider these 4 things:

  1. Accept that with time we are DIFFERENT than who we once were and that is NOT a bad thing.

  2. Friendships may CHANGE but true friendships will have flexibility.

  3. Be RESILIENT and do not sweat the small stuff. This too does and shall pass.

  4. GRATEFULNESS helps keep you centered. Try to make today the best day it can be.

What helps center you? How do you cope with rough days? Thoughts of friendships changing with time or phases of life? I would love to hear from you.

Hope ❤

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To The Woman At The Bridal Shower

To the woman at the bridal shower

…that offered to hold my baby while I ate, thank you. I had told you he had colic. You said I still needed a break.

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To the woman at the bridal shower, thank you for asking to hold the baby a second time considering the first time I said, “I’m fine” but was actually sleep deprived and exhausted. You knew I was pretending to have it covered. I’m glad you reasked and I said yes. You did calm him down so well and I was able to eat and drink some water.

To the woman at the bridal shower, who I didn’t know before that day and whose name I cannot even remember, thank you. I went to the bridal shower with my two month old and was so nervous he was going to be loud and take attention away from my best friend who was getting married.

To the woman at the bridal shower, you don’t even know how a simple gesture made such a big impact and I will always remember. Thank you.

To the woman at the bridal shower, thank you for lending a hand to someone who was a new mom and this was her first time around more than a few family members. I was nervous going into that day but you made me feel comfortable and powerful.

Thank you. 

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I will never how you reassured me so effortlessly that I was doing well and why you were so sweet and kind to help someone you didn’t know. I hope I can be this woman to another mother. Another stranger or another friend that didn’t know she needed help. This is what it is all about. Supporting one another and lifting each other up. ❤

Love,

A new mom that was impacted

❤ Hope

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A photo of my friend and I on the day of her bridal shower

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Hey You Right There: Choose Your Own Adventure

This is my first post of a series of weekly thoughts. I’m interested to hear if anyone has thought about these things as well. Feel free to comment, I’d love to start a conversation! ❤

I just have been feeling so warm and fuzzy from you all. Thank you for supporting me and thank you for supporting each other!

The sun is shining bright, birds are chirpping, it’s another beautiful summer day!

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Today’s thought is this: We choose our own adventure and outlook.

I once heard someone complain about the birds chirping in the morning and how they hated that they wake them up. I feel so different! Note, I can sleep through a thunderstorm no problem. BUT regardless I LOVE hearing those birds chirp first thing in the morning and was amazed how the same thing that brings me joy was something that they disliked.

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Is today going to be a good day? Do you want it to be? Or do you want to sulk about something instead? Not everyday can be the best day of your life of course but I challenge you to be mindful of one day and a time. Not just working for the weekend, enjoying something each and every day. Maybe it’s a walk after work or early morning coffee before work and reading a good book. Or maybe it’s calling a friend to catch up or spending quality time with your significant other, family, or a close friend. Or journalling or organizing something. What gives you peace and recharges you?

All the best,

Hope ❤

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I’ll leave you with a recent bathroom selfie <3, no shame

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10 Things To Say To Friends That are Working Moms (Or 10 Things Working Moms Might Need To Hear)

 

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1. You are amazing

You have not only had this baby or multiple children, you are striking the balance of going into work and succeeding each workday and coming home to take care of your family. Give yourself some cred, mama.

2. You are selfless

When is the last time that over the course of a workday or commute that you didn’t think about your family at all? Probably doesn’t happen much. We are thinking about the baby or the children all the time, always trying to make their day special and memories fun. They appreciate your effort.

3. You are setting a great example

Your child is looking up to you and seeing all the hard work you put in. They know you are helping make their future bright.

4. You are helping to provide for the family

No matter if you work part time or full time, you are helping to provide food on the table, clothes on their back, necessities, toys, diapers, and anything else that is needed for the child.

5. You are strong

You know that there are easy days and hard days, but you understand that you can take them on and persevere. This is not the first hard thing you have encountered in life and you take it on like a champ

6. You are irreplaceable

You are unique and irreplaceable. Try not to forget that.

7. You are a great multi-tasker

When you are a working mom, there are still all of the other things that need done. Laundry, cooking, cleaning, bills, appointments, sports, playdates, birthday parties, family get togethers. Spouses and significant others do help but seriously, helping the household keep going by constantly tackling the day-to-day tasks AND working is an amazing feat.

8. You are supported

You are supported by your spouse or significant other, your best friends, your friends at work that feel like family, your actual family, mom groups, and random sweet old ladies that always lend a helping hand. If you are having a rough day, reach out to these people, this network of people WANTS to help you and cheer you you on.

9. You can (and should) ask for help

Whether it is taking a break to do some selfcare, going on a walk or exercising, just having quiet time at a coffee shop or running to a store or the grocery without the baby or children, reach out to that support system to take a break. That’s what friends are for. They want to help, let ’em. ❤

10. You are thriving one day at a time

You are killin’ it. Through the tears. And the days you would do anything else but go into work. Through the holidays. Through the days when work is hard.

This life is not easy but one day you will reflect on the long days and how much you accomplished at home AND at work and smile. How much you jammed into 24 hrs.

For today, drink that coffee or tea, stay connected with those friends and family that  build you up, and keep on going mama. Hug those babies or those growing-out-of-every-item-of-clothing-children.

You got this, we got this. All together.

❤ Hope

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Momshaming NEEDS to stop

Momshaming NEEDS to stop

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CAN YOU BELIEVE SHE WAS FEEDING HER DAUGHTER THAT? CAN YOU BELIEVE SHE TOOK HER BABY OUT SHOPPING IN PAJAMAS? CAN YOU BELIEVE THEY LET HIM WATCH THE PHONE? CAN YOU CAN YOU CAN YOU CAN YOU…

Everyone parents differently.

Some are no electronics and some are electronics and TV from early on. Some children have been only in cloth diapers and some wear whatever diapers are available. Breast or bottlefed. To self soothe or rocked to sleep. The lists of differences go on and on.

You might ask, HEY SO WHAT’S THE BIG DEAL?

Here’s the beautiful thing about this all …

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These kids will be friends and will still play on the playground together and still do art in class together and still be children together. They might not know their parents had such different ways to raise them. Each of them will still have strengths and weakness. Each of them will still have good and bad days, just like we all have. So did it matter if baby boy never nursed because his mom chose not to and only slept after being rocked to sleep? NO. Or that his friend was nursed 2-3 years? NO. Both mamas love their baby and made choices for a reason.

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I AM JUST SICK OF PEOPLE BEING NASTY TO ONE ANOTHER. I CAN’T HANDLE IT. LET’S CHANGE THE CULTURE AND COME TOGETHER.

 

I feel like the scene from Mean Girls right about now. When Tina Fey’s character says “Raise your hand if you have ever been personally victimized by Regina George”. Everyone raises their hand. I feel like as mothers we can of course share our opinions and experience with others but let’s be open and nice about it, not victimize mothers who are trying to find their way. BECAUSE for some things THERE IS NO RIGHT ANSWER and DIFFERENT THINGS WORK FOR DIFFERENT MAMAS and BABIES.

Motherhood is HARD enough, lets stick together and empower each other, not tear each other down.

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❤ Hope

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Comment on this post and let me know what you think. How do you combat negativity from other moms or how to do empower mamas?

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