Been thinking about the direction I want my life to go to and my past. Ive been feeling curious if anyone has felt the same.
I am DIFFERENT from where I was 5 years ago. I think before I talk and am more respectful to those around me.
Friendships CHANGE. It is inevitable. I have been struggling with not beating myself up for not making old friendships a constant priority. TRUE friends can pick up where they left off and we will reconnect when we can.
I am RESILIENT. A bad day at work or a rough day with the baby does not get to me anymore. I have a support system of friends, family, and coping mechanisms to help take a step back.
I feel GRATEFUL for every single day. Not everyday is promised and I have been doing the best I can to cherish the day to day, even if there is not AMAZING things happening every day.
SO, I challenge you to consider these 4 things:
Accept that with time we are DIFFERENT than who we once were and that is NOT a bad thing.
Friendships may CHANGE but true friendships will have flexibility.
Be RESILIENT and do not sweat the small stuff. This too does and shall pass.
GRATEFULNESS helps keep you centered. Try to make today the best day it can be.
What helps center you? How do you cope with rough days? Thoughts of friendships changing with time or phases of life? I would love to hear from you.
CAN YOU BELIEVE SHE WAS FEEDING HER DAUGHTER THAT? CAN YOU BELIEVE SHE TOOK HER BABY OUT SHOPPING IN PAJAMAS? CAN YOU BELIEVE THEY LET HIM WATCH THE PHONE? CAN YOU CAN YOU CAN YOU CAN YOU…
Everyone parents differently.
Some are no electronics and some are electronics and TV from early on. Some children have been only in cloth diapers and some wear whatever diapers are available. Breast or bottlefed. To self soothe or rocked to sleep. The lists of differences go on and on.
You might ask, HEY SO WHAT’S THE BIG DEAL?
Here’s the beautiful thing about this all …
These kids will be friends and will still play on the playground together and still do art in class together and still be children together. They might not know their parents had such different ways to raise them. Each of them will still have strengths and weakness. Each of them will still have good and bad days, just like we all have. So did it matter if baby boy never nursed because his mom chose not to and only slept after being rocked to sleep? NO. Or that his friend was nursed 2-3 years? NO. Both mamas love their baby and made choices for a reason.
I AM JUST SICK OF PEOPLE BEING NASTY TO ONE ANOTHER. I CAN’T HANDLE IT. LET’S CHANGE THE CULTURE AND COME TOGETHER.
I feel like the scene from Mean Girls right about now. When Tina Fey’s character says “Raise your hand if you have ever been personally victimized by Regina George”. Everyone raises their hand. I feel like as mothers we can of course share our opinions and experience with others but let’s be open and nice about it, not victimize mothers who are trying to find their way. BECAUSE for some things THERE IS NO RIGHT ANSWER and DIFFERENT THINGS WORK FOR DIFFERENT MAMAS and BABIES.
Motherhood is HARD enough, lets stick together and empower each other, not tear each other down.
Comment on this post and let me know what you think. How do you combat negativity from other moms or how to do empower mamas?